I don’t feel sorry for the heartbroken… The heart can heal, but more than that it becomes better than it was before. It can be smarter, stronger and if you let it sensitive and loving. We’ve all been hurt, let down, used and manipulated and it hurts. Your body feels the ache of heart break from your pounding head and tightness in your chest, to your legs that don’t want to get you out of bed each day. But you do…. you get out of bed each morning and you learn to keep going because you know that you have to. Its important that you learn to accept your pain and let it wash over you. Cry out the feeling of loss and let the love you were giving remain and make your heart whole. Let it make your heart grow and fill your body with sadness…. I know that sounds awful but sadness is not a bad thing but instead we are sad because we are capable of so much love in the first place. That sadness that you have filled yourself with will drain of loss, the hurt will ease and the anger will fade. You will be left with all the love you will ever need and more.
So I don’t feel sorry for the heart broken…. we will better. We will learn from the past and be a better version of ourselves for the ones that deserves us, the ones that put us first, and the ones that appreciate all the love our growing hearts have to offer.
But I pity the breaker. I pity the manipulator, the cheater and I pity the liar. These are the people who will never know the love and the ache we feel and will never experience the growth they need to be a better person. They will never know how thoroughly love can touch them because they are unable to truly give themselves to anyone. Their hearts will never fill their chests like yours does and will never be able to express your level of passion. These unfulfilled, half people are the ones who deserve the pity. They are the ones that lost and when they finally see it… it will be too late.
So be angry. Be hurt. Cry as loud and as long and you need to and let the love you felt wash over you. Always remember that you did not lose anything and there is no hole that cannot be filled. Instead you get to keep all that love you have and give it, in a stronger, more perfect version of itself to someone more deserving.
Don’t let heartbreak make you bitter. Don’t let it make you a jealous, angry person and most importantly don’t let in make you shut people out. I hope to be as open, as kind and as loving as the first time I fell in love up until the last. Don’t let your sadness make you ugly.